It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

So many of my friends and other people I know are depressed and unhappy, yet they wouldn’t want to open up to anyone either because they want to go through their issues alone while bottling up thing’s, or because they just want to put it out there due to reasons best known to them.

So here’s me writing a letter to my depressed friends promising them that everything will be okay at the end of the day.

Dear depressed friend,

Look, I know that right now, things seem chaotic. Your job isn’t your favorite, your anxiety is eating at you, and your bank account looks frightening. There’s a lot on your plate right now.

Maybe that’s not exactly what you’re going through, but I’m pretty sure that you’ve been occupied with your hustles. You’ve been dealing with a lot. Everyone has their own struggles, their own issues to work through, and sometimes things don’t turn out the way you want them to. We are all humans and humans are prone to errors.

I know you don’t feel like doing much these days and even reading or viewing my status updates or Insta stories would be a great task for you but hold on for a few moments, will you? I promise I won’t ask you to get over it or tell you that it’s all in your head. I just wanted to say sorry for all the shallow things the world has told you and for all the times people have misunderstood you.

It’s okay, you know? It’s not your fault. You’re not weak, you’re not “too emotional”. You are human just like the rest of us. Anyone who thinks you’re faking it or not man enough to hold your shite together doesn’t deserve your attention. Anyone who thinks you’re not trying at all doesn’t deserve your time. Anyone who underestimates your pain doesn’t deserve your company. I know it’s hard for you and trust me, you can take as much time as you want. You are above everything, just remember that.

I know it will be so stupid and so insensitive of me when I tell you that you’re not alone because at the end of the day, it’s only you behind a locked door, crying the life out of yourself. But even if you lock the door, I just wanted you to know that I’m on the other side, waiting for you to come out. I won’t knock because I don’t want to rush you. I know you need your time and I respect that. I’ll be standing right over here, now and always.

I’m so sorry you have to go through this, but please hold on for some more time, I need you. We all need you. Life is not the same without you around, it would never be. I’m waiting for your victory in this battle against yourself and I swear I won’t lose hope cos’ I’m rooting for you all the way up. Let’s be on the same team, okay?

It’s okay to be different; it’s okay to feel things. It’s okay to want to cry, to be angry, to feel negative emotions. Finally, When depressed, talk to someone by reaching out for help, advisably a trained psychiatrist. Just think positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts. Think outside yourself. Ask yourself if you’d say what you’re thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself.