What’s your motivation? What keeps you moving forward? Ever asked yourself such questions and you tend to be buried in thoughts? Motivation is what gets you started. we all want to have successful life one day in our lifespan, we aspire to achieve our goals everyday and night, but the big question in mind is […]
What’s your motivation? What keeps you moving forward?
Category: Motivation
It’s Okay Not To Be Okay
So many of my friends and other people I know are depressed and unhappy, yet they wouldn’t want to open up to anyone either because they want to go through their issues alone while bottling up thing’s, or because they just want to put it out there due to reasons best known to them.
So here’s me writing a letter to my depressed friends promising them that everything will be okay at the end of the day.
Dear depressed friend,
Look, I know that right now, things seem chaotic. Your job isn’t your favorite, your anxiety is eating at you, and your bank account looks frightening. There’s a lot on your plate right now.
Maybe that’s not exactly what you’re going through, but I’m pretty sure that you’ve been occupied with your hustles. You’ve been dealing with a lot. Everyone has their own struggles, their own issues to work through, and sometimes things don’t turn out the way you want them to. We are all humans and humans are prone to errors.
I know you don’t feel like doing much these days and even reading or viewing my status updates or Insta stories would be a great task for you but hold on for a few moments, will you? I promise I won’t ask you to get over it or tell you that it’s all in your head. I just wanted to say sorry for all the shallow things the world has told you and for all the times people have misunderstood you.
It’s okay, you know? It’s not your fault. You’re not weak, you’re not “too emotional”. You are human just like the rest of us. Anyone who thinks you’re faking it or not man enough to hold your shite together doesn’t deserve your attention. Anyone who thinks you’re not trying at all doesn’t deserve your time. Anyone who underestimates your pain doesn’t deserve your company. I know it’s hard for you and trust me, you can take as much time as you want. You are above everything, just remember that.
I know it will be so stupid and so insensitive of me when I tell you that you’re not alone because at the end of the day, it’s only you behind a locked door, crying the life out of yourself. But even if you lock the door, I just wanted you to know that I’m on the other side, waiting for you to come out. I won’t knock because I don’t want to rush you. I know you need your time and I respect that. I’ll be standing right over here, now and always.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this, but please hold on for some more time, I need you. We all need you. Life is not the same without you around, it would never be. I’m waiting for your victory in this battle against yourself and I swear I won’t lose hope cos’ I’m rooting for you all the way up. Let’s be on the same team, okay?
It’s okay to be different; it’s okay to feel things. It’s okay to want to cry, to be angry, to feel negative emotions. Finally, When depressed, talk to someone by reaching out for help, advisably a trained psychiatrist. Just think positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts. Think outside yourself. Ask yourself if you’d say what you’re thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself.
You got this, dear friend.
Bluestar Insider
By: Jackson Ngari, 20, student at Rongo University pursuing BSc in Communication and Journalism
What Do You Know About Mental Discipline?
Since time immemorial, possessing the virtue of self discipline has been greatly spurred on. The virtue has been instilled by motivational talks to the young at their early age.
Discipline is an enforced compliance or control. It aims at the removal of bad habits and the substitution of good ones, especially those of order and obedience.
The scripture also strongly recommends one to be disciplined, (NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION), Hebrews 12.7- ” Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as His children. Why are children not disciplined by their father?”
Mental discipline entwines intellectual processes relating to the mind with a state of order based on submission to authority.
Quoting the greatly renowned Patrick Loch Otieno Lumumba “No matter how educated and rich you are, if you do not have the gift of discipline; you’re a danger to society.” The Kenyan lawyer impels on having good mental discipline in order to fit in the society as a good citizen. Mental discipline refers to how disciplined you are to consistently engage in the kind of mental practices that get you to where you want.
” Mental discipline is not about motivating yourself excitedly once a month about what you are optimistic to do. It is about making daily committed decisions as to what you are going to pay attention to and how you are going to think.”
Author Joe Mwangi
Aspects of mental discipline
There are two aspects of mental discipline: what we put in and what we do or think. If you crave for being more mentally strong, it is a good idea to open yourself to a mixture of information. Mental discipline is not about motivating yourself excitedly once a month about what you are optimistic to do.
It is about making daily committed decisions as to what you are going to pay attention to and how you are going to think. It’s a committed effort to keep using what you learn, to maintain a healthy attitude and build the kind of emotions that serve you well.
Ways to improve your mental discipline
- Countdown, then take action. This helps you shift into the right mental space you get motivated.
- Put your goal where you can see them everyday.
- Remind yourself why you started and keep the end- goal in mind.
- set small goals first. Try not to overwhelm yourself by setting the bar too high.
- Practice prioritizing the tasks that are worth dedicating more effort.
- Know your weaknesses then proactively combat them.
- Get friends to hold you accountable. You are less likely to cheat on your goals if someone you admire is watching.
” The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable prerequisite for success.” Brian Tracy.
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By JOE MWANGI
You Don’t Need A Man To Cater For Your Basics- VIRGINIA MUTHEU
Women should be independent
Dating is not a means through which you get that which matters to you in terms of luxury, it’s about giving and getting mutual support.
Venture into that relationship not because you are needy but because you genuinely love and value your partner.
Independent women have more opportunities and similarly can make any decision for themselves. When a woman chooses to be independent both financiallv and otherwise this directly impacts the way people perceive her.
It’s time that women see the importance of financing themselves and stop the preoccupation of getting a man to pay their bills!!
You don’t need a man to cater for your basics or rather the fancy things you dream of. You already got this !! What they need actually is to work smart towards their goals, see their worth, and mold their life.
An independent woman is powerful, confident and doesn’t need a man to feel beautiful, happy or loved. She’s not Contingent and can stand on their feet without necessarily having someone to approve them.
Yes! It takes courage and strength but it is worthwhile. Until you empower yourself on becoming the best there could be, you might never really know the true potential that lies within you.
The bluestar insider
By VIRGINIA MUTHEU.
What Does It Mean To Be Consistent At Work?
Consistency at work involves producing the same standard of work throughout a long period of time. Consistency affects the quality of work that you develop, the speed at which you produce work, your attendance and your communication with others in your workplace.
Being consistent at work involves maintaining the same standards and behaviors that lead to producing a high quality of work. Employees may improve their consistency by practicing time management, setting production goals and identifying areas of improvement within their work ethic. Learning how to practice consistency at work may boost your productivity and help you receive positive feedback from management. In this article, we discuss what it means to be consistent at work and provide ways to improve your workplace consistency.
Why is consistency at work important?
It’s important to remain consistent at work in order to:
- Produce high-quality work:
By maintaining consistency in the workplace, you can ensure that you produce high-quality work. Consistency minimizes the chance of your work quality decreasing.
- Provide order in the workplace:
If a workplace has several employees that provide consistency, it allows that workplace to maintain proper order, which can help management better determine performance measurements and analyze accurate project estimations.
- Meet client expectations:
- Create sustainable habits:
Clients may have a better understanding of the standard of work they may receive from an organization if staff produces consistent work. For example, a client may see the same massage therapist that provides consistent work, since they have a better idea of the massage therapist’s standard techniques and massage processes.
Consistent work may help staff at a company to create long-term habits, which can lower the chance of burnout. For example, employees may use positive time-management habits that help them produce the same amount of work each day, rather than increasing their workload, which may help them avoid feeling burnout.
After learning and measuring the importance of consistency, it’s now time to tighten all the loose ends. Make consistency a habit in everything you do; it doesn’t matter who you are. The most successful people in life produce prolific results because that’s their own invented culture.
The Bluestar Insider
By JOE MWANGI
What’s your motivation? What keeps you moving forward?
Ever asked yourself such questions and you tend to be buried in thoughts?
Motivation is what gets you started. we all want to have successful life one day in our lifespan, we aspire to achieve our goals everyday and night, but the big question in mind is where do I start from?
We all start from scratch until we become mirrors in the society. Despite the urge of wanting to make it badly in life fear is dragging us behind, people will always be afraid of how the society views them and thus they hesitate to make a further step. Of course it’s hard and if it were easy everybody would do it, Hard is what makes it great.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being excited about what could go right also don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind, be led by the dreams in your heart. The strongest factor for success is self-esteem. Believing you can do it, believing you desire it and believing you will get it.
The blue star insider.
BY VIRGINIA MUTHEU
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